exploring vulnerability and transparency one bath at a time

Maggie H


Name: Maggie H

Age: 23

Pronouns: She/Her and They/Them

How often do you bathe or shower?

I shower every day. I bathe… this is my second bath in a year. I don’t like the water ::giggles::. Water scares me. I have no water in my astrology chart, and I think that’s why. I’m an Aries sun, Taurus moon, Capricorn rising, Gemini Venus, Aries Mars… I think Capricorn Jupiter and my Uranus is in Aquarius.

Do you identify with your chart?

I identify a lot with my chart. I didn’t at first, I just thought it was fun to tell people I’m an Aries because that’s the first of the wheel. I thought it made me special and the best ::laughs::. But then I started looking into it and I identified a lot with everything. I think astrology is a great tool to use to get to know one’s self deeper. Not to mean, I’m an Aries which is why I’m so inconsiderate, but more of, I’m an Aries so I have a tendency to think about myself, therefore this is something I can work on and I have more insight. I fully identify with my Taurus moon and all of my Capricorn fucking tendencies or like, “WORK HARD” and then my Taurus moon is all, “indulge, eat, cuddle and be sensual”. My Aries sun is such a fucking wreak ::giggles:.

What are you passionate about?

I am passionate about equal rights. That would be my number one. I am passionate about traveling, not being an ignorant piece of shit, which goes along with equal rights. I am passionate about food and my recovery.

How does your passion for equal rights play a role in your day to day life?

With equal rights, I don’t experience much on the marginalization side of things. I’m white, I pass as a girl, I pass as straight. The only thing I really have against me is that I’m not rich or something, which is the easiest strike to have against me. I donno… It manifested when I was young, my mom has always been passionate about it. I remember one day, I was 5 or 4 and we were at Home Depot. There were two Hispanic men shopping, and I was scared because I had never seen a person of color before. My mom noticed this, she grabbed me, and pulled me down and said, “Those people are people. They may not look the same color as us, but they are people just like us and they have every right to be here. There is nothing to be afraid of, they are kind, loving souls”. Ever since then, I thought about why some people are lower on the scale of life for no fucking reason. Now, it comes up everywhere in conversation on the day to day. People say ignorant shit. It’s really the only thing that has gotten me heart racing, blood boiling… that injustice.

What is something you feel accomplished with?

Generally? I feel accomplished in becoming a better person. I used to be a shit person. I’ve always cared about equal rights, but if you were a white man and you pissed me off, or if I saw you at a bar… I would walk up and accuse them of being Nazi’s and try to fight them and I constantly cheated on my partners. I was drinking through all of this, and stealing massive amounts of things from work and stores… I didn’t have any real morals or values. I wasn’t able to be a functioning member of society or treat people kindly. In the last 3 years, I’ve done a lot of fucking work on myself. Now, I’m a person who I can trust. I have values, morals, I don’t steal, I don’t cheat. Generally speaking, I’m kind to others on a day to day basis whether or not I know them, regardless of what they look like.

What is something you still struggle with?

A lot of things. I still struggle with, like, that whole Aries thing of “I’m first and the most important and you hurt my feelings”. Like, I’m still very me-centric. I don’t know if everyone is like that, I assume most people are. I still struggle with looking at the needs of the whole and what’s best for the community, the family, the group. Instead of what I want. I still struggle with gossip. That’s one that has been coming up lately. I like to talk shit. I’m not gonna lie, I like talking shit. It’s something I catch myself on frequently. I still struggle with not hating conservative people. I really do. It’s hard for me to remember that they’re people too and that they deserve to be treated fairly even though they suck and are stepping on the rights of the people. I don’t like rich people. I struggle with that.

What are your thoughts on relationships? Platonic, sexual, familial and otherwise?

I think that relationships are the best thing we’ve got in this world.



Name: Kb

Age: 27

Pronouns: She/Her/Hers

How often do you bathe or shower?

Ummmm, every day or every other day. Honestly, it depends on how early I have to get up. Getting my ass up and out of bed is a serious challenge—no matter what the time of day. I typically shower and hardly ever take a bath, although I have taken to them recently as I’ve been moving toward more intentional self-care. Giving it more of my energy.

What does your self-care look like?

Mmm. Getting my nails done. Getting my hair done. Tanning! For sure! When I talk about going to the tanning bed, I call it the beach because it makes me feel so warm and happy. Taking my medicine. Routine. Making the little decisions that I know are best for me even when I don’t feel like it. Anything I can to make myself look and feel better—because I deserve it. If I can show myself some love and appreciation through self-care, I feel better. Then I can feel like my best self for other people. Showing up for other people is a form of self-care for me too. If I can’t show up for other people, it means I’m not showing up for myself.

If you were an underwater creature, which one would you be?

A fucking shark! Cuz they’re on top of the food chain, dammit! I saw this meme that said, “Do sharks complain about Monday morning? No. They’re up early- biting shit, chasing shit, and generally being scary because they’re a fucking shark.” You just got to get after it, that’s shark mentality. Be the best, be the biggest. But also stay humble.

What are you passionate about?

Being a good human. Inspiring others to be good humans. Changing the ways our culture thinks about that. I think we have a very clear ideal of what being a good person looks like, but it can be very unrealistic for a lot of people. Expectations are way too high. So, modeling the small, simple acts of kindness that can build on each other versus having this cut dry ideal to live up to. Making it yours, the little things that you’re good at and that you excel at– using those skills and traits to be kinder to humanity. At the end of the day, we’re all we’ve got. I don’t know about you- but everybody deserves happiness, and I want to be a part of making that possible. Building a little bit of a better world. Since I’ve gotten sober, I’ve realized that the biggest thing I can do to be a good human is simply to be kinder to myself. Then trying to be gentle with people and meet them where they’re at without judgement. Trying to be the reason why someone has being a part of the little thing that sets them off and into a negative spiral. If you make someone’s day a little better, it can change how they move forward with their day. It can change all of the little things they can do for the better—their interactions with others, their sense of inner peace, the choices they decide to make for themselves. All because you smiled at them or gave them that ballin’ parking spot in the front row. Just, setting other people up for success.

What is something you feel accomplished with?

I think I would have to go with, beating alcoholism. It’s a really broad thing but it breaks down into so many different areas of my life. It’s an umbrella thing that enhances everything. I can be my best authentic self fearlessly. I produce better work. I’m able to show up for other people when they need support. Not being bound to drinking every day is something that has allowed me to win more in everyday life.

What is something you still struggle with?

Practicing what I preach ::laughs:: And not trying to fit into a mold. Being gentle and making small waves. It’s really easy to be enticed into making this big wave with killer impact. The thing is those are few and far between. It’s the small ones that add up and create larger ripples. The smaller waves reach farther.

What are your thoughts on relationships? Platonic, sexual and otherwise.

They are either positive ones or they are negative ones and there isn’t a lot of space in between them. Relationships are fucking hard because I have to deal with other people. Helping others process and problem solve their shit that they’re going through when I’m already stuck in my own head, is really difficult. That said, I’m a Libra, so I’m naturally drawn to relationships. I like the “you and me” thing, versus the “I have to do it myself”. I do tend to gravitate towards being in romantic relationships, as well as keeping strong bonds with my family when they’re healthy and not toxic to my health. I think the nature of my relationships have changed since I’ve gotten sober. The authenticity and vulnerability that come along with choosing to be in relationships with people who match my vibe. There were a lot of negative relationships going on while I was battling my traumas and the ways it manifested. At the time, I didn’t realize the profound impact they were having on my choices. I now know I need to be more intentional about who I invest my energy in. It’s easy to hang out with someone I’ve known for 15 years. It’s not as easy to walk up to someone new and say “hey, let’s get a coffee and talk about life”. I think we need to better about fostering our relationships and focus less on ourselves. I want to see what happens when our culture shifts from “how can I be happy in this moment” to  “what can I do to contribute to the greatest good or happiness for myself and everyone around me?” Personally, I don’t think that’s too much to ask for.

Andrea Romans

Andrea Romans

Name: Andrea Romans

Age: 39

Pronouns: She/Her/Hers

How often do you bathe or shower?

Like, once every few days. Bathing. Baths. They work better.

If you were an underwater creature, which one would you be?

A mermaid. You’d have a big tail! And you’d swim fast and have pretty hair!

What location would you be a mermaid in?

The ocean. ::Laughs::. Not the arctic, it would be too cold. Your nipples would get so hard. Like, you probably wouldn’t even be able to swim. You’d have these humongous nipples impeding your swimming. So yeah, okay… it would have to be somewhere warm. The tropics area. Well, unfortunately, all of our oceans are probably going to be super warm now… depressing.

What are you passionate about?

Food and well, being healthy. Drinking water. Being healthy and food are related. You have to eat food that makes you happy. And you know, you have to eat food that’s healthy for ya. If you eat a bunch of fast food you’re not gonna feel good. If you eat some food that isn’t fast, and took some time and some care, you’ll feel like you took care of yourself. Yeah. I like to cook anything for my kids. And breakfast. My kids like grilled cheese, soup, sausage and beans with veggies. This one thing I do, with kielbasa sausage with kale and butter, onions and peppers. Oh! And sweet potato. It’s so good.

Do you grow your own food?

No, not yet, but soon. I want to grow some mushrooms. It’s perfect for mushrooms in my backyard. There are fallen trees and overhang. It doesn’t get super sunny in different parts. Not psychedelic ones, edible ones. But I guess they’re both edible… Yeah ::laughs::.

What do you feel accomplished with?

Paying my bills on time ::laughs::. It’s always a nice feeling. Well, actually—it’s going to the grocery store and being able to get what we need and just… being able to get what my kids need. Being able to afford life ::laugh::.

What is something you still struggle with?

I donno… coming up with something to say. I’m really quiet a lot of the time. I’ve always been. Maybe I’m just quiet! Or wait! I guess I’m not good with small talk. Yeah. I don’t really care about the weather. Yes, weather happens. I don’t understand why people watch the news for the weather. Like, TV sucks. That’s what I’m passionate about! TV sucks.

What do you prefer over television?

Cleaning my house because I’m a single mom. And, laundry. I play music with my band and work. And ride my bike. I love my bike. It sucks that it’s cold right now, but the warm will come. Biking is by far my favorite mode of transportation. You get to exercise, have the wind in your hair… it’s awesome. Getting to watch all these dumb fuckers in their cars, it’s all like, “I’m on my bike, bitches!” ::laughter::. It’s the best. OHH the hills too, even if you have to go up a ways or even walk it up. For every hill there is also a downhill. Philosophical.

What are your thoughts about relationships? Platonic, familial, sexual and otherwise?

They’re cool. Relationships are cool ::laughs::. Being a mom, is hard work and very satisfying. It’s pretty cool. Having these little humans that you get to take care of and you know they’re gonna be awesome. They’re not gonna be average people. I don’t want to seem like a hater, but I feel like I’m raising kids who won’t have shitty jobs. Like, they’re going to enjoy life and not just exist and be consumers. Also, collaborating. With food and the band. Coming together to make something cool. It’s what we do at work all day. When I cook, everyone contributes something. Like, there’s the chief dude who’s in charge and he’ll say “we need this!” so I’ll start the prep and then the line cooks do the stuff that can be done within a few hours and I’ve been doing the stuff in the morning. So at 5PM, it comes together and it’s awesome. We got some happy diners ::laughs::. It’s really cool!

What are you bringing forward this year?

On New Year’s Eve, all day on new year’s eve day… yeah, I kept saying “hindsight is 2020. Do better this year bitches” ::laughter::. But maybe that’s not right. Maybe 2020 shouldn’t be looking back, it should be looking forward.

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