by The Bathtub Project
How often do you bathe or shower?
Oh, I take baths like, twice a day ::laughs::. We don’t pay water here…That is a big selling point in any place I live. Being in the water is meditative for me. It’s one of the few times that I will leave everything outside of the room. Can’t really have your phone in the bathtub…
If you were an underwater creature, which one would you be?
I’ve put some thought into this. I think I’d be coral. Cuz, I’m dying slowly, but at least I look good doin it! ::Laughter::. Extensional crisis and all that good stuff. And… bartending. wearing away at ya, slowly but surely.
How long have you been bartending?
I guess it’s been about two years now, but I’ve been working behind bars since I was old enough to do it and probably a little before then. I’m very much an introverted person. I’m not entirely sure how I fell into this career track… It is probably the most extroverted career path that you can have. That being said, I love meeting people and hearing their stories. But when it’s your job to be on and you’re not the best at always being on… it can be more than a little bit draining.
What are you passionate about?
Creating. Creating and learning. I kinda, constantly strive to learn as much as I can, almost to a fault. It’s become… it eats away my days. I try to fill my time with making something or learning something or doing something. Trying to learn how to let that settle instead of going constantly. Trying to sit with the things I’ve learned.
What have you been creating recently?
Recently, I’ve been trying to create this marriage between self-care and industry life. I’ve been putting together these programs on how to make mocktails, been doing yoga training so I can eventually teach service industry focused yoga. Most yoga classes focus on people who have been sitting all day. I’d like to make a yoga class that is geared towards people who are on their feet non-stop, people who have tired cocktail shaking arms, sore lower backs. A place where your community is there. Also, there are no yoga classes at 3 o’clock in the afternoon, when all of us eventually wake up ::laughs::. It would be nice to offer classes at a time when we can all actually go ::laughs::. So yeah, that’s been a huge focus recently. Really trying to create that marriage between things I genuinely love. I think there’s a way to be an industry person that is healthy and still feel like you’re living and not entirely excluding vices, I guess.
What is something you feel accomplished with?
I’m really proud of the space that I’ve made for myself. I feel like I’m finally getting to a place where I have a home that I’m happy to walk in to. I have people that I genuinely love. I have filled my days with things I enjoy doing. I’m actively learning and changing my schedule so I have time to process. I guess… I’m focusing on my needs more. And creating a space where those needs can be met.
What is something you still struggle with?
HAH, everything!! ::Laughter::. Yeah, I wake up everyday and… I’m exhausted all the time. I struggle to do well at my job, and to feel good about my life and to feel like the people around me genuinely want me to be around. Even when I know they do. It’s the lies we tell ourselves, those narratives. Yeah. I struggle with the daily, but I think it’s getting easier. I hope it’s getting easier.
What are your thoughts on relationships? Platonic, romantic, familial and otherwise?
That’s a good question. I’ve moved around a lot the last couple years and it’s been interesting. I’ll move to these places and make a family. I’ve lived in Louisville, Asheville. I have a community in Oregon and Colorado. I worked at a camp where we lived with international staff for like, four months at a time. I have all these pockets of really deep relationships. It’s strange, I feel like I have all these small families and I want to do better at keeping up with them. Letting them know I love them. I’m trying to learn how to do that. How to be a good friend in all these different communities and maintain those friendships.