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Cameron L

Cameron

Name: Cameron L

Age: 25

Pronouns: She/Her/Hers

How often do you bathe or shower?

Like, daily. Hopefully. And then, sometimes it’s like… a sacrifice. I’m like, “do I turn my homework in on time or do I give my kid a shower, or do I shower?” Daily mostly ::laughs::.

If you were an underwater creature, what would you be?

Mmmm. I think that I would be a mermaid. I would like to get the best of both worlds. Plus, I’d be so pretty and shiny and have super amazing hair. I’d get to breathe underwater. How could you not want that?

What are you passionate about?

I am passionate about a lot of things, so many things. But, the happiness of others… which can be trouble sometimes too… I’m passionate about educating others. Especially children, educating them and making children happy. Is my number one passion. I like to teach. Whether it’s language or art, those are two specific teachings I’m passionate about. I love to teach kids a second language, or how to paint and color and draw. It’s really fun. For me to be a part of a child’s mind expanding into a whole new world, with things that they didn’t know and things that they get excited about learning… I love to be a part of that and doing things that I like to do at the same time. It’s good for every body.

Do you speak a second language?

I’m conversational in Spanish. I do a little bit of American Sign Language. I use more English sign language, it’s more the way we speak English instead of the actual way you’re supposed to do American Sign Language because it is a whole different language.  ASL is kinda the same as Spanish, where the order of words is different. It’s not how we speak at all. And the way that it’s written, is totally different than how the English language is written. It’s not word for word. 

How did you learn Spanish?

When I was younger, my mom thought it was very important for me to learn. She would teach me certain words, then I would sit down with her books from school and she would teach me. Luckily, I’ve always used it, so by the time I went to middle school I took Spanish and was able to get credits going into high school. I was at a higher level, and it was beneficial. Now I teach my kid!

What is something you feel accomplished with?

Even though I’m not finished with college, every time I complete one of the assignments and get my final grade… that’s a huge accomplishment for me. Every class is a huge accomplishment. Every time I wake up for work on time, it’s a huge accomplishment, honestly. It’s because I’m starting to appreciate the small things more. I have a lot on my own now, that I never saw myself getting. Having my own apartment, by MYSELF… Like, I did this by myself and my kid, and he has his own room and all of his own stuff… like, I did that. That’s a huge accomplishment that I’m very grateful for.

What is something you still struggle with?

Putting my own needs and self love first, before others. Not speaking up for myself in fear of being selfish… so doing things because of others. It’s a huge struggle and a work in progress. For sure.

What are your thoughts on relationships? Platonic, sexual, familial and otherwise.

I just love, love ::laughter::. I do… I think that relationships should not be limited. As long as they’re healthy and not because of feeling the need to fit into a mold. Like, because of the media or a book or whatever… Just as long as the people, regardless of if they’re monogamous or not, are truly happy, that’s where they should be. I mean, I myself, am not a monogamous person. I’m not against it for others and it’s not for me. Polyamory is one of the most amazing things I have accepted. I’m glad that I have accepted it for myself regardless of the opinions of others. My first poly relationship… was in middle school. It wasn’t intentional, like, I didn’t know what it was. it was just kind of like… “Oh, this is my girlfriend and she’s really into this guy and for some reason I’m okay with that”. Soooo, it was kinda like… we were best friends and we could talk about whatever, how she felt about her boyfriend without me being jealous. Being really open about those things. I’ve been that way since, and to not be that way feels weird. When I’ve tried monogamous relationships, I’ve kinda veered out a little bit… Yeah, it’s fine for a little bit and after awhile, I feel myself wanting to go in other directions. I feel I have enough to go around, so why not?

Brynn

Brynn

Name: Brynn

Age: 24

Pronouns: She/Her/Hers

How often do you bathe or shower?

Oh, I take baths like, twice a day ::laughs::. We don’t pay water here…That is a big selling point in any place I live. Being in the water is meditative for me. It’s one of the few times that I will leave everything outside of the room. Can’t really have your phone in the bathtub…

If you were an underwater creature, which one would you be?

I’ve put some thought into this. I think I’d be coral. Cuz, I’m dying slowly, but at least I look good doin it! ::Laughter::. Extensional crisis and all that good stuff. And… bartending. wearing away at ya, slowly but surely.

How long have you been bartending?

I guess it’s been about two years now, but I’ve been working behind bars since I was old enough to do it and probably a little before then. I’m very much an introverted person. I’m not entirely sure how I fell into this career track… It is probably the most extroverted career path that you can have. That being said, I love meeting people and hearing their stories. But when it’s your job to be on and you’re not the best at always being on… it can be more than a little bit draining.

What are you passionate about?

Creating. Creating and learning. I kinda, constantly strive to learn as much as I can, almost to a fault. It’s become… it eats away my days. I try to fill my time with making something or learning something or doing something. Trying to learn how to let that settle instead of going constantly. Trying to sit with the things I’ve learned.

What have you been creating recently?

Recently, I’ve been trying to create this marriage between self-care and industry life. I’ve been putting together these programs on how to make mocktails, been doing yoga training so I can eventually teach service industry focused yoga. Most yoga classes focus on people who have been sitting all day. I’d like to make a yoga class that is geared towards people who are on their feet non-stop, people who have tired cocktail shaking arms, sore lower backs. A place where your community is there. Also, there are no yoga classes at 3 o’clock in the afternoon, when all of us eventually wake up ::laughs::. It would be nice to offer classes at a time when we can all actually go ::laughs::. So yeah, that’s been a huge focus recently. Really trying to create that marriage between things I genuinely love. I think there’s a way to be an industry person that is healthy and still feel like you’re living and not entirely excluding vices, I guess.

What is something you feel accomplished with?

I’m really proud of the space that I’ve made for myself. I feel like I’m finally getting to a place where I have a home that I’m happy to walk in to. I have people that I genuinely love. I have filled my days with things I enjoy doing. I’m actively learning and changing my schedule so I have time to process. I guess… I’m focusing on my needs more. And creating a space where those needs can be met.

What is something you still struggle with?

HAH, everything!! ::Laughter::. Yeah, I wake up everyday and… I’m exhausted all the time. I struggle to do well at my job, and to feel good about my life and to feel like the people around me genuinely want me to be around. Even when I know they do. It’s the lies we tell ourselves, those narratives. Yeah. I struggle with the daily, but I think it’s getting easier. I hope it’s getting easier.

What are your thoughts on relationships? Platonic, romantic, familial and otherwise?

That’s a good question. I’ve moved around a lot the last couple years and it’s been interesting. I’ll move to these places and make a family. I’ve lived in Louisville, Asheville. I have a community in Oregon and Colorado. I worked at a camp where we lived with international staff for like, four months at a time. I have all these pockets of really deep relationships. It’s strange, I feel like I have all these small families and I want to do better at keeping up with them. Letting them know I love them. I’m trying to learn how to do that. How to be a good friend in all these different communities and maintain those friendships.

Maggie H

Maggie

Name: Maggie H

Age: 23

Pronouns: She/Her and They/Them

How often do you bathe or shower?

I shower every day. I bathe… this is my second bath in a year. I don’t like the water ::giggles::. Water scares me. I have no water in my astrology chart, and I think that’s why. I’m an Aries sun, Taurus moon, Capricorn rising, Gemini Venus, Aries Mars… I think Capricorn Jupiter and my Uranus is in Aquarius.

Do you identify with your chart?

I identify a lot with my chart. I didn’t at first, I just thought it was fun to tell people I’m an Aries because that’s the first of the wheel. I thought it made me special and the best ::laughs::. But then I started looking into it and I identified a lot with everything. I think astrology is a great tool to use to get to know one’s self deeper. Not to mean, I’m an Aries which is why I’m so inconsiderate, but more of, I’m an Aries so I have a tendency to think about myself, therefore this is something I can work on and I have more insight. I fully identify with my Taurus moon and all of my Capricorn fucking tendencies or like, “WORK HARD” and then my Taurus moon is all, “indulge, eat, cuddle and be sensual”. My Aries sun is such a fucking wreak ::giggles:.

What are you passionate about?

I am passionate about equal rights. That would be my number one. I am passionate about traveling, not being an ignorant piece of shit, which goes along with equal rights. I am passionate about food and my recovery.

How does your passion for equal rights play a role in your day to day life?

With equal rights, I don’t experience much on the marginalization side of things. I’m white, I pass as a girl, I pass as straight. The only thing I really have against me is that I’m not rich or something, which is the easiest strike to have against me. I donno… It manifested when I was young, my mom has always been passionate about it. I remember one day, I was 5 or 4 and we were at Home Depot. There were two Hispanic men shopping, and I was scared because I had never seen a person of color before. My mom noticed this, she grabbed me, and pulled me down and said, “Those people are people. They may not look the same color as us, but they are people just like us and they have every right to be here. There is nothing to be afraid of, they are kind, loving souls”. Ever since then, I thought about why some people are lower on the scale of life for no fucking reason. Now, it comes up everywhere in conversation on the day to day. People say ignorant shit. It’s really the only thing that has gotten me heart racing, blood boiling… that injustice.

What is something you feel accomplished with?

Generally? I feel accomplished in becoming a better person. I used to be a shit person. I’ve always cared about equal rights, but if you were a white man and you pissed me off, or if I saw you at a bar… I would walk up and accuse them of being Nazi’s and try to fight them and I constantly cheated on my partners. I was drinking through all of this, and stealing massive amounts of things from work and stores… I didn’t have any real morals or values. I wasn’t able to be a functioning member of society or treat people kindly. In the last 3 years, I’ve done a lot of fucking work on myself. Now, I’m a person who I can trust. I have values, morals, I don’t steal, I don’t cheat. Generally speaking, I’m kind to others on a day to day basis whether or not I know them, regardless of what they look like.

What is something you still struggle with?

A lot of things. I still struggle with, like, that whole Aries thing of “I’m first and the most important and you hurt my feelings”. Like, I’m still very me-centric. I don’t know if everyone is like that, I assume most people are. I still struggle with looking at the needs of the whole and what’s best for the community, the family, the group. Instead of what I want. I still struggle with gossip. That’s one that has been coming up lately. I like to talk shit. I’m not gonna lie, I like talking shit. It’s something I catch myself on frequently. I still struggle with not hating conservative people. I really do. It’s hard for me to remember that they’re people too and that they deserve to be treated fairly even though they suck and are stepping on the rights of the people. I don’t like rich people. I struggle with that.

What are your thoughts on relationships? Platonic, sexual, familial and otherwise?

I think that relationships are the best thing we’ve got in this world.

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